IS HIS ERECTION A SIGN OF YOUR ATTRACTIVENESS?
Some women attach enormous significance to their lover’s ability to get an erection. They think that a firm erection is a sign of genuine love. A woman who believes the penis is some type of emotional-sexual lie detector will feel threatened and rejected by a man with an erection problem. She may doubt herself intensely and she may jump to all types of conclusions about the cause of his problem.
If the above scenario strikes a chord in you, you should probably explore your feelings further, perhaps with the help of a counselor. It’s important to recognize just what messages you give yourself about the situation, and what you express to your lover. A woman who feels that erections are proof of a man’s love may feel too hurt to participate in treatment, She may resist facing the problem, fearing that ultimately, her husband is going to leave her. But our research indicates that couples who deal directly with potency problems often fare extremely well, both in resolving the sexual difficulty and in maintaining, and even strengthening, their relationship.
Whatever course of treatment you and your lover choose, get started as soon as you can. It is much better to get to the problem early. Even in the best of situations, the void left by not knowing what is causing a potency problem is often filled with anxiety, depression and debilitating self-doubt—for both the man and the woman. That’ s why we recommend that you take care of yourself—and help your partner—by getting qualified professional help early. You wouldn’t want a painful stomachache to go untreated, and the emotional pain that potency problems can cause is just as, or more, debilitating and serious.
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